When Is the Right Time to Start Dating? Mary's Research

When is the right time to start dating?

I am studying when people think it’s the right time to start dating and how dating young will affect us later. I have asked this question to myself for along time and I just don’t get why I keep dating but I don’t think it’s really a good idea for me to be in a serious relationship at fifteen years old. I believe that at this age we are still growing and changing all the time. And we all need time to grow and live life before we get caught up in a relationship that we are not fully mature enough to handle, than when that relationship does not work out you or the other person are so heartbroken and sometimes don’t know what to do with themselves.
I want to share a poem that young teenage girl wrote to her ex boyfriend and I think it really shows just how much young people put too much out of themselves and it does affect your future.

“My tears are flowing for you
As my mind wonders and heart beats
My body is nothing without you

And as the wetness of my cheek are beginning to dry
And my thoughts weaken and try to forget
I feel like nothing without you

The beats within my chest were real,
Something that no one will ever steal
When there is nothing without you

But as I try to forget you more and more
My body grows weaker and begins to wear
My mind floats, rises to react

I know I’m nothing without you…”
By Carissa Marks

If another person is the only thing we have in life and the only thing we look forward to doing everyday than we most definitely will be hurt and severely troubled when that person either leaves or even dies.

Also I see a lot of people when they have a bad breakup of lose a person they either binge eat or starve them selves. That‘s probably about the worse thing you could do at that point in your life, no matter what your age of maturity level is. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise everyday.

Young people we have our whole lives in head of us don’t settle for the right now man settle for the best man and maybe you feel that he/she is, but don’t rush into things.
How old do you think a couple should be before they get married?
Asked at Munchers Bakery, August 2009

“I think it should be more of a mindset as opposed to a number. You should always feel ready, not rushed. ”
— Jayne Fisher, accounting major, Kansas City, Kan.

“I think you should finish your schooling first. But if you didn’t go to school, at least 21.”
— Deirdre Fisher, wing administrator, Boston

“Twenty-one. I think that’s a pretty responsible age.”
— John Ragan, boiler operator, Lawrence

“I believe 21. It gives a person time to get through some education.”
— Alvin Kroge, retired

“As of 2003, 43.7% of custodial mothers and 56.2% of custodial fathers were either separated or divorced. And in 2002, 7.8 million Americans paid about $40 billion in child and/or spousal support (84% of the payers were male).”

I honestly believe if people weren’t jumping into relationships so young and immaturely these statistics would go down drastically.
I can’t say I’ve really learned anything more from this but its definitely reinforced the beliefs I already have, and noticed that I’m not the only one out there that thinks this way.

Sources:
Google;
http://www.lovepoems.com
http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsus.shtml
http://www.therightagetostartdating.com